I am excited for this year ahead. Do you want to know why? Because I have a LOT of plans in store for YOU because I want to serve you better.
I know the start of the year is all about plans, goals, and yes, New Year’s Resolutions! Now, I am NOT against the whole concept of resolutions, and I congratulate you for keeping them. But here’s a key takeaway I learned: New Year’s resolutions do NOT work for everybody. In fact, 80% of resolutions are abandoned by February!
So, what can we do? I compiled some tips and suggestions from Forbes; these are alternatives to resolutions that you can try in 2020.
1. Look back and review what you accomplished last year. Write them down and celebrate! This will make you less anxious and more optimistic about planning the year ahead. Don’t skimp out either, write down even the simplest ones, if they’re something you accomplished!
2. Make specific goals. Make your goals challenging, but achievable! Then, break them down into smaller chunks of specific tasks that can be your to-do list for 2020.
3. Do something different. What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to do or try? Or something you want to check out that might have a big impact on your career? Go for it! It doesn’t have to be a habit, it can be only one thing that you aim to start within the year.
4. Improve on something. You don’t have to try something new, but you can work on something you’re currently up to. Tweak it and make it better. Or, another idea is adding a new habit to an already existing one.
5. Don’t beat yourself up. I always, always say this, because I firmly believe in it! It’s okay to fail, if you FAIL forward! Don’t be too hard on yourself for not meeting your goals, but don’t be satisfied by it either. Use it as an opportunity to learn and move forward!
In the coming weeks and months, you’ll surely see some announcements on what my team and I are cooking up!
Stay tuned! In the meantime, hit me up at if you have any questions, suggestions, or feedback!
We’ve both found a way to dig ourselves out of that hole and do something with our life.
Sylvester’s life mirrors that of his best-known role as the movie character Rocky.
I think that Rocky is one of the most popular movies of all-time because so many people can relate to it—including me.
So many of us find ourselves broke, just needing a break in life.
And there’s a simple formula in the movie that shows ANYONE how to have success in life (it’s not just a boxing movie)!
The 3 Steps I take are Dream, Risk, and Persist.
Let’s look at each one a little more closely:
The first theme in Rocky is that you’ve got to start with a dream, whatever it may be, big or small, realistic or unrealistic…you’ve got to have some idea of what you want to accomplish.
Stallone is a great example of running against the wind and going against the odds for a dream.
He couldn’t get a job acting when he first started out, so he did the hard work of writing screenplays and scripts, learning about cameras, and doing everything around the area of acting.
If your dream is in a space but you can’t yet do that ONE thing you want, just start getting around that space and do things related or near to what you really want to do.
The second theme of Rocky is that you’ve got to be willing to risk getting knocked out in order to pursue your dream.
There are no guarantees life will go how you plan or want.
But if you never risk going after your dream, you will for sure NEVER get it.
Rocky is about taking a shot, swinging for the fences.
Life throws a wall at you and you stand up to it.
At some point, if you’re going to be extraordinary in ANYTHING in life, you’ll have to risk something—and it’s going to be scary and NOT comfortable.
For Stallone, the producers at the studio loved the script he wrote for Rocky Balboa and offered $360,000 just for the script, with the condition that he wouldn’t play Rocky… because they wanted a big Hollywood Star.
$360K was tempting to a guy that had literally NO money.
But Stallone knew HE was the guy to play the part of Rocky.
He wouldn’t settle!
In life, it can be RISKY to not settle—it’s risky to go after it ALL.
But I know Sylvester wouldn’t have been happy if he had played it safe and settled for the $360K—which he really needed at the time—in order to let someone else play HIS character.
You must be confident in your abilities and what you want if you’re going to RISK big.
What people admire about the character Rocky is that he GOES THE DISTANCE.
He stood up, took a shot, and went all the way with it.
Don’t quit on your dream!
Know that nothing worth having is EASY.
Many people say they’re going to do what it takes to succeed, become a millionaire, bla bla bla…but when it’s time to train they don’t want to put in the time.
Don’t start down the road of success only to quit.
Life and business are a sprint but it’s also a marathon.
The studio told Stallone they wanted his movie, but NOT him, but he kept persisting that HE WAS THE GUY to play Rocky.
Opportunities will pass you by, just because you are a NOBODY.
Doors will be shut on you.
Can you persist?
Rocky went on to receive nine Oscar nominations and got three wins, including Best Picture and grossed over $200 million.
That movie is a cultural icon and made Stallone a star.
But don’t forget that before all that became a reality, Stallone did all kinds of odd jobs like cleaning out lion cages in the city zoo and working as an usher at cinema halls…working hard just to survive and find a way to make his dream work.
My dreams have also never come easily.
Nobody knows how much I trained to be the best in my field, nobody knows how much I suffered in the early days of my career, and nobody knows how much I had to persist just to win ONE big project.
Much like Rocky, I can relate to these lyrics—can you?
Risin’ up, back on the street
Did my time, took my chances
Went the distance, now I’m back on my feet
Just a man and his will to survive
So many times, it happens too fast
You trade your passion for glory
Don’t lose your grip on the dreams of the past
You must fight just to keep them alive
It’s the eye of the tiger, it’s the thrill of the fight…
If you’re reading this, you’re looking for a way out of the mediocrity or flat out failure you are experiencing in your life. It’s okay to admit it.
There’s no shame in trying to find a solution. What is shameful is to hide the problem and pretend that everything is okay?
Now we’re on the same page, I need you to pay attention to the chair you are sitting on as you read this article. It seems sturdy. Obviously, it’s able to hold your weight. It’s doing its job just fine but did you know right before you sat down to read this article, you had to make a quick snap decision.
In fact, it went by so quickly that you probably were not even aware of it. Still, you need to make that decision. What am I talking about? I’m talking about your assessment of the fitness of the chair. That’s a big deal because if you sat on the chair without thinking and without even considering whether it’s sturdy enough to hold your weight or whether it’s positioned right, you probably will fall flat on your butt.
You might even hurt yourself. Belief is the reason you quickly went through the emotion of sitting before you can read this article. You believe the chair would hold your weight. You believe it’s in good enough shape to take care of you and prevent harm from happening to you.
I’ll walk you through this exercise to bring home the point that belief is crucial to your daily existence. You do it all the time. You operate out of belief. You live in belief. Belief is the glue that ties your life together. It informs your decisions that make your life possible.
If you can believe this chair can hold you up why do you continue to believe in things that hold you down? If you’re struggling in any shape or form it’s because you believed in the wrong things. I know it hurts; I know it stinks.
Nobody wants to hear this because it leads to the ultimate conclusion we all need to wake up. We are the authors of our life. We make that call. We make that decision and nothing stings more than coming face to face with the reality you made bad choices.
If you’re struggling in your relationships, at your job, with your health, how much you weigh, and what you look like, it’s because you made the wrong call. Nobody likes to be wrong. But the good news is that you don’t have to rely on your feelings.
You don’t have to remain trapped or at least you feel trapped. Instead, you can tap into the power of belief so you can make better decisions. You understand that the world doesn’t care about your feelings. It really doesn’t give a hoot about what your emotional state is.
Do you know what it pays attention to? It is your actions. Get your belief house in order and you will make better decisions. This means taking better action which puts your life in a better position.
Belief impacts your expectations and assumptions. Start there. What do you assume to be true about you? It is your life, your place in the world, and your capabilities. What do you expect out of life? This is a belief too.
The good news here is that just as you can accept certain beliefs. You can drop them like a hot potato. Seriously, belief affects how you roll with the blows; it affects your coping mechanisms. Understand how belief works and understand that belief is a choice. Choose better beliefs and you get better results. It’s that simple.
Transformation is a process, and as life happens there are tons of ups and downs. It’s a journey of discovery – there are moments on mountaintops and moments in deep valleys of despair. Rick Warren
It is amazing when God brings people that can help you grow and transform. The slogan for the work that our team is doing in Paraguay is The Transformation Begins in me. And boy it needed to happen in me. The first time I facilitated a round table I took a small action step, to change my soft drink during dinner for a bottle of water. That small action step was the catalyst to start a transformation in many areas of my life.
Being connected to a community of people that are affirming and growing side by side with you is the best investment you can do for yourself. Are you ready for the transformation that is needed in you? Remember The transformation begins in you.
Are you ready? Let’s do it together.
3 characteristics of transformational leaders
1. Great Attitude
Transformational Leaders have a great attitude towards every situation they encounter. It is not to be confused with being happy about what is happening. When you have a great attitude you are choosing how you react and your attitude in difficult moments. You decide to keep a good perspective and focus yourself towards your goal. That focus will help you take actions that will guide you towards fulfilling the vision you have for your family, team, or company. When you are focused you can achieve the results that you need to even do the outside conditions may not be in your favor. Remember this:
[shareable cite=”John C. Maxwell”]Your attitude is what makes the difference. [/shareable]
Tranformational leaders are always willing to go the extra mile. They know their craft and are good at it. They read books, attend seminars and even volunteer their time to help others. Competent Leaders look for Excellence in everything that they do. Average is curse word for a competent leader. They do not want to be average, they are looking to exceed expectations everyday. And as competent leader you look to inspire others to achieve their very best and follow your example. This brings credibility to the leader.
[shareable cite=”John C. Maxwell”]Competence goes beyond words. Is the capacity to plan and execute in a way others want to follow you[/shareable]
Transformational leaders define clear priorities that will help them decide where they go. Without clear priorities you may think that action is a synonym to success, but that is the case. Leaders that do not establish their priorities will waste their time in many tasks that may not help them reach their goals. Your priorities should be based on the return they can provide. The Pareto Principle says that we get 80% of the return of our time from the top 20% of our priorities. Leaders that understand this are able to accomplish a lot more because they focus their effort and priorities on what can help them accomplish their goals.
[shareable cite=”John C. Maxwell”]In order to make your dreams a reality you need to determine your priorities and act on them daily[/shareable]
If you could evaluate yourself from a 1 -10 what number will you give yourself?
How is your attitude with your family, team or company?
Are you a competent leader?
Are you setting up priorities that help you reach your goals.
Leave me a comment and share this article with others.
Who would forget the ever-famous line of Peter Parker’s grandfather, with great power comes great responsibility. The society expects Spiderman, a comic book, TV, and movie superhero, to be responsible for saving his town, or even the world, in some instances, from evil because he has super powers.
From all the episodes he appeared in, he never let us down. With the power he possesses, he makes sure to be responsible in using it for the good of the people around him.
Leadership is not at all different from being superheroes. Yes, you may not have super powers like Superman and Spiderman, but you have the authority to lead other people towards success. This is so much greater and stronger since it is a power that can be used by real people in this real world.
Hence, being a leader requires great sense of responsibility, the second quality a successful leader should attain.
The power to lead your people towards aiming your vision comes with responsibilities like making sure they are on the right direction, being aware of each and everyone’s tasks and mistakes, and putting them back on the right track when they get lost.
Who said it is easy to be a leader? Well, with it comes with tons of responsibilities. True leaders are willing to accept them all.
George Bernard Shaw once said:
[shareable cite=”George Bernard Shaw”]We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.[/shareable]
There are instances where sometimes it makes us feel better to blame somebody or something else when something goes wrong in a task. However, this should not be practiced, especially by a good leader!
A leader should take full responsibility of a task – not just before he accepts to take it, but also after it has been accomplished. As much as he is responsible for his team’s success, he should also be responsible for any failure. He represents the whole team so whatever happens to it, he is the one responsible.
Making excuses and blaming something or someone else for failed jobs is not a quality of a good leader. What he should do, instead, is to accept the fact that something went wrong with the organization, even if it is not his fault. It is normal to make mistakes. In fact, mistakes are opportunities to learn something better. As a leader, he must ensure that the team members learn from these mistakes and that these errors will not be repeated next time.
You may not have full control over other people and are not expected to have full control over their actions, but you have full control of your own reactions. Knowing what to do over unexpected and unpredictable situations will make you responsible, hence giving you the feeling of power.
Mi libro favorito dice que: “Donde no hay visión, la gente perece”
¿Alguna vez has sido parte de un equipo que parecía no tener ningún progreso? En mi bella isla del encanto Puerto Rico, decimos “que pisan y no arrancaban”. Tal vez el grupo tenía una gran cantidad de talento, recursos y oportunidades, y los miembros del equipo se llevaban bien, pero el grupo nunca alcanzó las metas que tenían trazadas. Existe una gran posibilidad de que la situación se deba a la falta de visión.
Si analizamos los grandes logros durante nuestra historia, cada uno de ellos ha tenido una visión clara de qué era lo que se quería lograr.
Para alcanzar un gran logro, necesitamos tener una visión. Esa visión tiene que ser clara. Cada equipo necesita una visión convincente para darle dirección. Un equipo sin visión es lo peor; no tiene sentido. En el mejor de los casos, está sujeto a las agendas personales y a veces egoístas de varios miembros del equipo.
El autor Ezra Earl Jones señala que: “los líderes no tienen que ser los más grandes visionarios ellos mismos. La visión puede venir de cualquiera. Sin embargo, los líderes tienen que declarar la visión. Los líderes también tienen que mantener la visión ante la gente y recordarles el progreso que se está haciendo para lograr la visión. De lo contrario, la gente podría asumir que están fallando y renunciar.”
Si diriges a un equipo, una familia, o iglesia, entonces eres responsable de identificar una visión digna y convincente y de articularla a los miembros de tu equipo.
Most people know the first one: Save at least 10%. Many know the next one: Give back at least 10%. Some are willing to Invest an additional 10% to create passive income. And a few invest at least 10% of their income on their own personal growth.
Friends it was 8 years ago when I learned and adopted the fourth success principle. It changed my life. It was this fourth success minimum that gave me what I needed to move me into investing in great mentors and partnerships in order to develop myself.
The point is investing ALWAYS comes before return. Planting ALWAYS comes before harvest. We all know our next step and many times the next step is the most difficult. Let me encourage, beg, plead and push 🙂 Take that next step, please.
Invest in yourself. Read a book, join a Mastermind Group, start a coaching relationship, attend seminars. Don’t wait another day. Do it now. It will change and transform your life.
My friend and mentor John Maxwell once said:
[shareable cite=”John Maxwell”]Growth is the great separator between those who succeed and those who do not. When I see a person beginning to separate themselves from the pack, it’s almost always due to personal growth.[/shareable]
It’s amazing what we can hold when we let go of what we have.
I can tell you these 4 success minimums are amazing. And don’t even get me started in what happens when you go above 10%!
During our life time, there will be good moments and others not so good. Some of those moments will challenge us and may even be very difficult for us. During those difficult moments, there is a question that we should ask ourselves: What shall I do now?
In the difficult or challenging moments of our life we need to decide. The famous American football coach Vince Lombardi asked this question to his team. He helps them understand that when they get knock down, they have a choice. His influence help the team go and win many Super Bowl Championships.
[shareable cite=”Vince Lombardi”]It’s not whether you get knock down, It’s whether you get up [/shareable]
His team understood that no matter how many times they are tackled down by the opposing team it’s their choice to get up and keep playing by focusing on their goal.
[shareable cite=”Carlos Vargas”]As leaders is our role to help our team understand what to do during difficult times.[/shareable]
How will we show our team to get up again during difficult times?
In difficult times, we recognize that we have been tackled down.
It is critical to recognize that during the difficult times we may get tackled down. Recognizing this step is not a signed of weakness, it is a sign of strength. Be Learning to recognize it will help you move to the next step.
In difficult times, we got up
After you have realized you got tackle down, you must get up. Before you get up you should look and understand what happen so when you get up you are up for good. Getting up without understanding how you got tackle down it will only get you back down soon. So, spend the time understanding what happen and how to prevent it for the future.
In difficult times, we keep our eyes on our goal.
During the difficult times keep yourself focus on your goal (team or personal). Focusing on your goals will help you see that when you get knock down you can see where you must go and what you may need to do.
After recognizing you have been tackled down, got up and keep your eyes on your goal you will be more intentional on what you do and help your team to be more intentional in the middle of the difficult situations you can encounter.
It is really interesting how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress.
Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It had me thinking that there really must be something in this ‘mind-over-matter’ thing.
Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants after laughing so hard. Despite of what’s been happening, and to those who has gone though the ordeal, it’s better to just laugh while facing the troubles with a clear mind than anger with a clouded vision. One of the funniest celebrities of all time may have to be Woody Allen. Now this is one guy who gives you the in-your-face bluntness that he pulls out with gusto, even without even trying. You can talk just about anything with a man, and he’s bound to mock the subject and you’ll end up laughing rather than being upset about it.
Woody Allen has this to say:
1. “Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons.” It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn’t have to take an arm and a leg to get it.
2. Right now it’s only a notion, but I think I can get the money to make it into a concept, and later turn it into an idea.
3. “There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?” This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life’s little problems isn’t all that bad, until ‘he’ shows up.
Sure, relationships can get complicated, or does have its complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. We follow what our heart desires, unless you’re talking about the heart as in the heart that pump blood throughout your body.
4. I’m not afraid to die, I just don’t want to be there when it happens.
5. Seventy percent of success in life is showing up
6. If you’re not failing every now and again, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything very innovative.
7. I am not afraid of death, I just don’t want to be there when it happens. If it rains, it pours.
8. I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose. It could get worse when you’re guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!
9. If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans. At least he doesn’t smite us with lightning, and I’m thankful for that.
And despite of what may happen to all of us in the next ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I guess we all have to see things in a different kind of light and not just perspective. I can’t seem to imagine life without any piece of wisdom that could guide us. Whether we’re religious or not, it takes more courage to accept your fears and learn how to deal with them is all that matters when it comes to even just getting along.
And to sum things up, here is the last nugget of wisdom to go by… however, whenever, and wherever we may be.
10. “The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.”
A mentoring relationship is a way to build connections with experienced professionals in your field. This can help you advanced your career and develop new connections inside and outside your organization. A successful mentor/mentee relationships should be fulfilling and beneficial for all involved. This are ten areas I focused in my mentoring relationships.
The Mentee will: Be up front. Let your mentor know what your goals are and what you hope to take away from the program. The Mentor will: Help your mentee set realistic expectations. Also, if you know you will be unavailable because of business or personal travel, let them know.
The Mentee will: Remember that your mentor is there for you, but is only a guide. The Mentor will: Encourage communication and participation. Help create a solid plan of action.
The Mentee will: Review your goals. Make sure your mentor knows what to expect from you. The Mentor will: Help set up a system to measure achievement.
The Mentee will: Be polite and courteous. Keep up with your e-mails and ask questions. The Mentor will: Respond to your e-mails. Answer questions and provide advice, resources and guidance when appropriate.
The Mentee will: Let your mentor know if you don’t understand something or have a differing opinion. The Mentor will: Be truthful in your evaluations, but also be tactful.
The Mentee will: Listen. Ask if you can observe your mentor’s practice if he/she is local. The Mentor will: Engage in your own learning while you are mentoring, collaborate on projects, ask questions and experiment.
Innovation and Creativity
The Mentee will: Offer ideas on what activities and exercises you can do together. The Mentor will: Share your ideas, give advice and be a resource for new ideas.
The Mentee and Mentor will: Remember that people come from diverse backgrounds and experiences. Get to know each other on an individual basis.
The Mentee Mentee and Mentor will : The more consistent you are, the more you will be trusted.
The Mentee will: Remember that your mentor is offering feedback and not criticizing. The Mentor will: Recognize the work the mentee has done and the progress made.